“So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.” Colossians 3:12-14 The Message (MSG)
We do whatever we can to cover our nakedness. Shame is the name of the game; we were born into a fallen world, and we are desperately trying to cover our way out of it. In a society struggling to find itself, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you. Adam and Eve were in the Garden before they found the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil; they were without remorse and without guilt. Since the first bite was taken, there has been a plethora of ways to find our identity again. Jesus already gave us our new wardrobe: covering instead of shame, peace instead of anxiety, love instead of judgement. In all the ways we try to find our identity once again, we can choose what we put on.
We are a technology driven society. It’s not necessarily good; it’s not necessarily bad. It just is. It’s the tool we have to work with at this time. It gives us a way to share ourselves, or “brand” ourselves, express our feelings and our creativity. It can make us or break us. What we see in the mirror or on our phones, is it reality? Are we clothed with compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, and discipline? Or is it something else?
My favorite way to create style is from the inside out. It’s easy to look at a picture of someone else and wonder how we relate. Do we compare, contrast, like it, or don’t like it? Do we look at other styles and judge or copy? Or do we do the hard work of finding our true selves? I’d rather do the work, celebrate myself, and partake of the celebration of others.
Let’s be honest. Clothes and accessories are fun! Social media is fun! Connection is fun! Women were made for beauty, inside and out. To find out who they are and to share it with their world. We can be who we want to be; God desires us to be full in our identity. But we do have choices. Here is a list of a few identity glitches I see most in the woman population.
- Comparison: How do I measure up?
- Jealousy: She has what I don’t have.
- Insecurity: I don’t know who I am, or I’m not sure if I like myself.
- Shame: Covering up what makes me feel uncomfortable to face.
- Social Media Facade: Make it look perfect.
- Time Management: Spending time on what doesn’t matter.
- Self-hatred/Depression: Let’s be honest. We’ve been taught to berate ourselves.
- Addiction: Feeding the hurt instead of feeding the source.
If you flip these issues, you get Camaraderie, Purpose, Security, Pride, Art, Productivity, Self-care, and Freedom. This is where I want to spend time! This is what I want to be clothed with as I rest in God’s acceptance toward me and allow Him to cultlvate His redemption in my heart and in my service. We were made to be beautiful, to be ourselves, and to share our style and our gifts with the world. The redemption is found in the process, of working from the inside out, and from offering ourselves to Him first. In His wardrobe, we’ll always give from a place of true identity, uniqueness, and grace.
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